Thought for today – 01/28/2012

“A little-known secret among marriage specialists is the fact that complaining is actually good for your marriage. You read that right! It’s good for your marriage. Research at the University of Washington has shown that complaining, at a moderate level, helps couples air their grievances and keep improving. What isn’t helpful to a marriage is criticism. So what’s the difference between criticism and complaining? Criticism almost always begins with you (“You always make us late!”), whereas complaining almost always begins with I (“I feel so frustrated when we are late to something that matters to me”). This may seem like a small matter of semantics, but it makes a big difference in your marriage.”
Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, Trading Places: The Best Move You’ll Ever Make in Your Marriage


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